On Sunday afternoon, Trevor and I were sitting at home enjoying a relaxing afternoon, and had a knock at the door. I answered it, and two women were there. I knew they were from The LDS Church, and I usually don't mind when they stop by, (we haven't been to church in over a year, and I'm not too sure how they got our information here in Houston, but that is okay). One of the ladies say "Oh, you must be the Mother of the home." When I said no, she said "daughter?" Mind you, this is in the span of 10 seconds of opening the door..... I again said no, and explained that it is only my husband and me in our family.. She then says, "Oh, good! A young couple..." I just shook my head, and said, "not really...." They introduced themselves, and after a few regular questions of how long we have been here, why we came, and where we are from, she said they would like to set up a visiting teaching appointment with me.
At this point, I am pretty annoyed at the fact that they couldn't even just introduce themselves, and just call me Sister Gregory, rather than the "You must be the mother statement".
I politely said we aren't practicing at this time, and would prefer to not set up a visiting teaching appointment. She then said, "ok, well, what about the home teachers". I said, "No thanks" to which she says, "Well, when you do have kids, we are having a Halloween party on Friday"....Um....(We don't have kids now, and I told you we aren't practicing, so the Halloween party on Friday for the kids....Not interested....)
I finally had to simply say NO THANK YOU, and shut my door, or it wouldn't have been pleasant.
I don't want to feel like a second class citizen because we don't have children. We have been married for over 6 years, and if children are meant to be for us, they will be. I felt like I was treated this way in our Chubbuck Ward. Some of the people were just simply rude, or just didn't even try to notice us, because we were the only couple without children. As far as the church....We aren't practicing obviously for personal and separate reasons beyond just not wanting to go to church. I don't really want to go into it on my blog, as I have several family members and friends who are members of the church, and I have complete and total respect for them.
